Maybe my idea of friendship is different than other people’s. I only say this because my parents, and a few other people, have voiced opinions on a certain matter. In May, my best friend is getting married. It’s going to be difficult for me because I have work then. Thus, I’d have to ask for a couple days off of work so I could fly out a few days before the wedding, and then fly back the day after the wedding. Luckily for me, I get five days in addition to the five they assign for me off of work, I just have to give them at the least three days notice (obviously I would give them more than that).
The thing is, my parents think I’m nuts to want to fly back to the US for only four-ish days. It’s crazy, for sure, and might cost me an arm and a leg (especially because I also have a wedding in London to budget for in July of the same year), but my best friend is getting married. Never once has the thought crossed my mind that I would be absent from that event. There are a handful of people who I would never miss getting married for the world. And of course, my bestest friend falls into that category.
This weekend I’m contemplating heading out to see my friend who lives about two and a half hours away by bullet train. It’s kind of nuts because I won’t get my paycheck for another month, but I really want to see her. There are some friends who I will go out of my way to see. Next weekend, a group of us wants to head up to the mountains to go visit a friend, and then the weekend after I’m thinking about heading over to Tokyo.
I see myself not having too much money in October, but honestly – I’d prefer that. Moving here, and living here, has made me have to think wisely about money – and what I need and don’t need. I do plan on investing in a better futon though…I’m getting used to the one I have, but it’s still super uncomfortable – and I’m shedding hair all over. It’s kinda nasty…So I need a vacuum as well. Haha
Anyway, I digress. There are times in my life when I wonder if people would do the same for me – go out of their way to see me just because they want to. One of those times was just before I was leaving for Japan (the first and second times). Both times, I was amazed at the people who wanted to see me (and actually made an effort to) and the people who half-heartedly attempted. That’s not to say that I’m worth going out of the way for. By no means, am I saying that. It’s just that there were people who actually made an effort to see me, and there were those who didn’t. And some of them, I was surprised by. It’s kind of hurtful when I think about it, because if I’m close with you and the situation were switched (he or she was leaving the country for an extended amount of time) I would have done all I could to have been there, even if it was for a short while.
Whatever. This isn’t about hurt feelings, this is about the fact that my friends mean the world to me (as do my family). I’m a pretty selfish person in the sense that I don’t think I could ever be a body guard for someone, but there are a handful of people I would take a bullet for. My best friend, and of course my brother, being two of them. I think, if I’ll take a bullet for them, the least I could do is be at their wedding in case something happens and I have to live up to that promise.
God. That sounds like an Asian Drama. *Knock on wood* that that doesn’t happen.
